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Asexuality Information and Resources

Asexuality Information and Resources

What is asexuality?

Asexuality is the simple absence of sexual attraction, regardless of the gender of either person. Like other sexualities, asexuality exists on a spectrum (more on this later). Many asexuals experience other forms of attraction, such as romantic attraction, and often engage in intimate personal relationships. Asexuality relates only to sexual attraction, not sexual behavior or sexual desire (libido) *; in other words, Some asexuals have sex for any number of reasons, and others do not; some asexuals masturbate, and others do not. Some asexuals have an active libido; some have a reduced or weak libido; others experience no sexual desire at all. The sexual behavior of asexuals is as varied as that of any other group.

Directed towards a specific person (“I want to have sex with you.”)

Generalized without a specific target (“I want to do sexual things in general”)

The sexual acts someone engages in (“here are the sexual things I’ve done / do”)

The Spectrum

The “ace” spectrum is as wide and varied as the rest of the sexuality spectrum. Here are a few of the more common / well-known identities.

  • Asexual - someone who does not experience sexual attraction
  • Demisexual - someone who does not generally experience sexual attraction, but may sometimes feel sexually attracted to someone with whom they already have a close personal connection
  • Gray-asexual - someone who falls between the two poles of the asexuality spectrum. A gray- asexual person may experience sexual attraction very rarely, only in specific circumstances, or not strongly enough to be acted on.

Myths and Misconceptions

Asexuals are not…

  • Celibate / AbstinentA celibate/abstinent person feels sexual attraction but chooses to avoid acting upon it. An asexual person simply does not feel sexual attraction at all, so there is nothing to suppress; however, they may have sex for a variety of reasons, including the physical pleasure of sex, or the pleasure of their partner(s).
  • Victims of Trauma. While there is a higher proportion of sexual violence victims in the asexual community, not every asexual has experienced sexual violence.
  • Incapable of LoveSex isn’t the only aspect of love. Just because an asexual person doesn’t experience sexual attraction doesn’t mean they don’t feel love.
  • In Denial/RepressedThis hopefully doesn’t need too much explaining.
  • Physically or Mentally UnwellAsexuality is neither a psychological disorder nor a physical dysfunction, any more than other sexual orientations.

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